One shouldn't have to be a rocket scientist to figure out how to keep things hot between you and your bae, after being together for some years!
Sometimes, couples don't realize that underlying problems have led to a decline in joyful intimacy.
The most obvious are unfaithfulness, illness, or body changes. All of these are on the surface however, there are deeper hurts that both men & women don't often share upfront.
Dr. Kat, a Human Sexologist & Certified Love Coach, shared that one must create an environment conducive to intimacy. "Intimacy is the atmosphere (the emotional/mental environment) to which healthy and pleasure-filled sex is engaged. If either is off-balanced there may be problems in paradise. I, too, had to learn how to release the pain and feel the pleasure of loving – often, finding myself seeking love for the wrong reasons, with the wrong men.
I lacked loving examples of true/healthy love as a child and went on to repeat patterns that caused pain and unhappiness. I speak to and for women who struggle to articulate or communicate from their place of emotional, mental or spiritual alienation. Together we heal our spirit and learn to cultivate self-love before allowing that love to blossom and flow passionately to others". -
Most misconceptions on both sides are that women are ALWAYS READY AND MEN DO NOTHING BUT THINK ABOUT SEX! This is far from the truth of the average person. When one factor in work, kids, bills, or illness, you can bet that sex is last on the list of daily to-do's.
So how can a couple keep the desire for each other going.... First, like any other thing that is built, you need a solid foundation. In this case, our foundation would be "the environment of intimacy".
first, create safe mental areas between you & your significant other by establishing the feeling of being safe and loved; safe to communicate past pains or hurts so that they are no longer a hindrance; fearing being judged.
Next, sit down together and research remedies to enjoy sexual intimacy such as lubricants like K-Y Yours & Mine or the powerful natural male stamina VitalityXtra, if there is a physical ailment prohibiting the initiation or duration of sex.
Playing games on Date Night such as "Fade to Black - Six Shades of Sexual Intimacy," will be a sure hit, in the right spot!
Also, engage in foreplay throughout the day...EVERY DAY! Now this doesn't mean that you have to "knock boots" every day, it just means to show your appreciation and love in verbal or nonverbal ways.
Complimenting a woman's non-physical attributes combined with a nonsexual attribute goes far to a woman ie., "I Love the way you care about the needs of others, your open heart & beautiful smile is simply breathtaking." for a male, appreciating his contributions combined with an abstract attribute and terms of endearment ie., " Honey I just love how you handled picking up the kids with your tight schedule, you are such a great selfless man with a sexy attitude to go along with it."
Everyone nowadays has a phone, so use it to create your safe, loving intimate environment. Text sexy, emotion-filled love notes....(notice I said a note, NOT A DISSERTATION)
Be playful and release the inner poet inside! The possibilities are endless! Lastly, there is nothing better than the gentleness of the human touch. You don't need words, gifts, or tricks! Just simply a gentle touch, so soft as roses!
Enjoy the LOVE VORTEX!
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